No one can make you feel anything without your consent

  “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” That is a famous quote by the late Eleanor Roosevelt and one of my all time favourites. When I write it with chalkpen on the picture frame behind my chair in the clinic I put a line through inferior and write anything above it. Because that is a fact. No one can make you feel anything without your consent. They can’t make you feel happy, they can’t make you feel sad, they can’t make you feel angry, nor any of the thousands of other feelings or emotions. What happens […]

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I returned to the place of my birth and found a part of me I’d left behind

My husband & I have been away overseas for exactly one month , we left on 17th July and returned on 17th August. Over lunch we have been discussing how ‘full on’ the trip was, with very little down time. I am an introvert and I need alone time to allow me to re-charge. This was difficult because we were surrounded by people who wanted to ‘do’ things. There was no time for afternoon naps so whenever I could I escaped into a book. Coming home has been like heaving a huge sigh and re-enforces yet again why I love […]

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Organised and ready …

The plans I had for the last three days were cancelled so having been given a gift I thought I would use the time wisely. I have been complaining for a long time that my business needed systems put in place to make things easier and quicker for me. But I never seemed to have the time to do such a big job. Healing Steps was birthed 16 years ago after I left full time employment. I took on clients after I completed my remedial massage course and as I kept studying. It continued to grow, the list of modalities […]

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The miracle that happened yesterday

Something extraordinary has happened. I don’t know how (and at the moment I don’t much care) I am just so very grateful that it has The how I will work out later   We had old friends come and stay People I had known most of my life And whilst they hadn’t been close they had always been there, in the background   I was showing them two photo books that my children had done for me One for our 30th wedding anniversary (14 years ago) and one for my 60th Birthday, photos of me with my grandchildren, messages and […]

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There is no ‘one size fits all’ with grief

My mother died at 1am on Easter Monday 2004. That is the day that I think of as the day of her death, not the date on her death certificate. Mum died at 1am on 12th April 2004, she just made it to my daughter’s first wedding anniversary. But because of Mum’s death, I am fuzzy on the date and I always have to double think it (if that’s such a word). Strangely on the 12th April each year I am not melancholy and it can pass by without me thinking of Mum. Recently I was reading a brilliant book […]

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The world has changed.

I feel as if I’m in a bizarre alternate universe!   Here I am at a social media workshop and instead of writing notes we are typing on our laptops and taking photos of the notes on the screen on the wall. These photos I will download later from my phone to my laptop and then put into a program together with my other typed notes. Which will then be a true account of the information I have been taught here today.   Incomprehensible to the child I was at school, or the adult studying as a ‘mature age’ student. […]

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