Don’t ‘build a bridge’ ~ dig up the foundations instead

I don’t know about you but I remember people telling me to ‘build a bridge and get over it’ (one of my all time hated sayings), change your thoughts, focus on the positive etc, etc …

I understand what they mean now (and I still don’t agree).

But back then in my BEFORE life (before ThetaHealing®) I had a negative soundtrack going on in my head 24/7 that I could not shut up. Much as I hated it, I seem incapable of stopping it.


Years later when I was in the recovery phase I acknowledged that the first thing I always honed in on was the only thing that was wrong.


That became blatently obvious when sitting at a wedding, instead of noticing how beautiful the bride looked, how stunning and flattering the dress, how lovely the flowers … I noticed the tiny lump showing through from her knickers, which I figured must have been a flower on her knickers.


I pulled myself up on it and noticed all the other positive things, but found I kept returning to that ever so slight bump.


I realized that I did that all the time. I went straight to it.

Whatever the it was that was not right, was not perfect!


Then I became aware that was what my mother did. She would comment on the negative first. Sadly very rarely followed it with a positive where I was concerned.


So when I consciously went about changing this judgemental behavior of mine I realized that it was her voice I heard in my head. It was her programming, reinforced by the nuns, that had me going for the jugular, so to speak.

Changing my thoughts seemed impossible.

How could I overcome this conditioning that was so powerful it happened without my conscious thought.

It was like a reflex, a default switch.


For 50 years this went on.

Impacting my relationships with my husband, my four children and my friends.


I saw a counsellor and started attending personal development courses and workshops to help me. I even did a two year holistic counselling course. But when I stumbled across ThetaHealing® and participated in the 3 day Basic course I had huge Ah Ha moments and the answers came.

I discovered how to change the negative soundtrack in my head.


I will be honest and say that it didn’t happen overnight, but it did happen!


I had tools and techniques that I could use. The more I dug down to those bottom beliefs hiding in my subconscious the easier it became.


I didn’t need to ‘build a bridge’. I took out some of the foundations (bottom beliefs) and the soundtrack slowed down and faded which allowed me to see the positives in the world.

I stopped being a victim of circumstance.

I became empowered and took back the reins and became the driver of my life, steering it in the direction I wanted to go.

I took back my power!

If you would like to know more about my story you can download the FREE ebook is here.


I loved ThetaHealing® so much. It was quick, easy and simple. I stopped seeing clients for counseling I used the new skills I had learned and they no longer had to sit in their story. They no longer had to re-live the pain and trauma.

A few years passed and I realised that if I taught this amazing technique to people I could spread it around quicker and more people could become empowered. So that’s what I did and now I teach ThetaHealing® courses.

And that is the part I love the most!

I still hate that saying ‘build a bridge and get over it’. If you do the Basic ThetaHealing® course you don’t need to build a bridge because with the tools you learn people won’t bother you in the way they did before. You will not be triggered by them.