Build a Bridge and get over it … my most detested saying

The saying I detest the most in the world is “build a bridge and get over it”.   If I knew how to build that bloody bridge I would have already built it! Do you think I want to sit in this pain? Do you think wallowing in this quicksand is how I want my life to be? Do you think I don’t want to feel joy and happiness rather than this dark pit in my belly?   I remember someone trotting out that trite remark years ago, it trips off the tongue so easily.   But how do you […]

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Our relationship with our mother is the most intense relationship we will ever have 

More than the relationship with your sexual partner. More than the relationship with your child. More than the relationship with your father. Ridiculous you might say. But think about it for a minute. You were inside you mother’s body for 9 months (if you were lucky) You felt her feelings You listen to her thoughts You shared her blood Every reaction she had during that nine months you had too! Then you had all those months where she was the one who kept you alive Feeding you and nurturing you We needed to make sure that our mother loved us […]

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Today is my youngest son’s birthday.

Yesterday as I sat pondering his birth all those years ago and realised that I needed to acknowledge it. Not just for me but for all the women out there who had gone through something similar and were just expected to ‘get on with it. Because it was a big deal. It was my fourth pregnancy and a HUGE surprise after having had my tubes tied. I had an incompetent cervix (the term used at the time, to further reinforce my ‘not being good enough’) I’d had a cervical ligature inserted, as I’d had with the two previous pregnancies, so […]

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2020 is here! A new year, a new decade

A new year, a new decade! What is this going to mean for you? Are you just going to carry on doing what you’ve been doing for the last 10 years or are you going to make a decision to grab this new decade with both hands and make your dreams come true? The decision is yours. As the saying by Benjamin Franklin confirms, ‘if you fail to plan you are planning to fail.’ What if it’s true, and you have manifested the way the world has treated you up until now? If you keep doing what you’ve been doing […]

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There are none of us blameless

As I sit here on Day 7 of the new year, the new decade, I am grappling with so many emotions that at times feel overwhelming as I watch the tragedy around me unfold. I have had a house full of people, my family, a total of 8 adults, 8 children and 3 dogs, and it has been difficult to find a space that gave me an opportunity for the solitude to contemplate, process and meditate on what is happening and how I feel. Yesterday, after 10 days of visitors, I took myself off to the river and then the […]

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Big lesson for me this week

When you feel like you’re pushing a huge large boulder up a very steep hill . . . Stop! Because you’re going the wrong way! It’s not meant to be that hard I have told this to so many clients over the years but as happens sometimes we don’t take our own advice! I had an idea, a plan It was a beautiful vision And I was fixated on what I had organised I could see exactly how it was going to play out But no matter how much I wanted it to happen, how much I organised it I […]

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Expectations

Years ago I learnt that having expectations of what people would do and how they would behave was bringing me a lot of hurt and disappointment. I use to write scenarios in my head of how something, an event or a day would go, what he would say, what she would say, what would happen and how it would all pan out. Without sharing my script or thoughts with anyone else. And then I would come crashing down with disappointment when it didn’t go the way I had orchestrated it in my imagination. Slowly I realised that I needed to […]

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Today I nursed my grandson

Today, April 4th 2019 is 18 years after I wrote the following and I feel that it is a significant day to post this. Happy 18th Birthday Fraser – from my heart to yours, always.   Today I nursed my grandson. Not such an unusual thing you may think. I had flown from Sydney to Melbourne to meet him the first 24 hours after his entry into this world As I had my private encounter with him I looked into his face & remembered a time long ago …   A decision made under pressure with no clear understanding of […]

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Manifesting does work

After a very long wait it is finally a reality. Today is the day my old kitchen is removed and a new one put in its place. The house is now crawling with tradies and I am sitting in my study typing this on Word because the electricity is off and therefore the internet 🙁 Last night as we cleared the last of the things from the kitchen and I wiped down those benches for the last time, I said goodbye and thankyou to a kitchen that has served me well for the 12 years we have lived in this […]

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Is this you??

  Are you going through your life feeling like something is missing? You have everything you need; a job, kids, a loving husband, a house… you know you “should” be happy, but some part of the puzzle feels like it is missing.   You just don’t feel fulfilled in your life. Perhaps you are able to label these feelings as depression or anxiety, or you may just feel “blah” most the time and can’t be bothered to even find a label for it.   When you look around everyone else seems to have it all together and then you start […]

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